I know what you’re thinking: “The dishes? The best sex of my life? Excuse me?” There’s a very real relationship between the two, I promise. And it makes a lot more sense than you may be thinking right now!
Let me tell you how I made this connection in the first place. I’m a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy. Many of my clients are amazingly impressive Type A women who are trying to “have it all,” but feel dissatisfied with sex. My clients come to me with complaints like, “I can’t relax enough to enjoy sex,” “I don’t have the time or energy to be intimate,” and “I never desire sex.”
As we work together, what we usually uncover is that these women have a hard time making room for any pleasure in their lives, inside or outside of the bedroom. Some women are too busy juggling dozens of responsibilities. Some women feel too guilty to take care of themselves. Some women simply don’t believe they can have a relationship with their pleasure. From the moment they get up in the morning to the moment they go to bed at night, many women don’t experience a single minute of pleasure.
A lot of ladies have been living this way for years, if not decades, because women are conditioned from a young age not to value their pleasure. They’re taught that pleasure is something to be ashamed of or embarrassed by. Even the word “pleasure” itself can sound dirty or intimidating.